The Intricacies of Psychological Projection in Relationships and Self-Reflection
- Empire Heyoka/Jen
- Aug 2, 2023
- 3 min read
Updated: Oct 7, 2024

Today, we delve into the fascinating subject of Psychological Projection, a topic that's particularly relevant both in the broader context of society and in my own personal experiences. It's crucial to understand this phenomenon, as it affects not just how we perceive others, but also how we relate to them—especially in intimate relationships.
Carl Jung summed it up well: "Projection is one of the commonest psychic phenomena... Everything that is unconscious in ourselves we discover in our neighbor, and we treat them accordingly."

What Exactly is Psychological Projection?
Simply put, Psychological Projection is the act of attributing one's own feelings, flaws, or insecurities to someone else—often a person with whom you are in conflict. The aim is generally to deflect attention away from oneself and onto another as a defensive strategy.
Examples of Psychological Projection:
Disliking Someone: If you harbor intense dislike for someone, you may project these feelings onto them, believing that they dislike you too. This serves as a defense mechanism against confronting your own negative feelings.
Body Image Issues: Have you ever found yourself excessively critiquing someone else's appearance? Chances are, this criticism may be a projection of your own insecurities about your body.
Assumed Capabilities: Statements like "If I could do it, so can you!" can also be a form of projection. This belief assumes a level playing field and can lead to unrealistic expectations, both in personal relationships and professional settings.
Suspecting Infidelity: Sometimes, fears of a partner's unfaithfulness can be projections of your own insecurities or even temptations. This can lead to baseless accusations and strain the relationship.
Why Do People Project?
Projection can be either subconscious or a deliberate act to shift blame or avoid personal accountability. Often, it is rooted in deep-seated insecurities that a person finds too uncomfortable to face directly.
Signs You're Being Projected Upon:
Feeling overly defensive or sensitive about comments from others
Rapid blame-shifting
Lack of perspective-taking
The need to dominate conversations
Strong emotional reactions on certain subjects
Low self-esteem and self-worth
How to Deal with Psychological Projection
If you find someone projecting onto you, it's essential to maintain your composure. Refrain from getting entangled in their narrative; instead, gently assert your perspective. Arguments and defenses only feed into the projector's narrative and divert focus from their own issues.
Healing from Psychological Projection
Awareness is the first step towards healing. Tackling past traumas, emotional wounds, and confronting your 'shadow self' can greatly help in minimizing projection in your life.
Work on healing your Inner Child
Address your emotional scars
Engage in shadow work
Projection is more common than most of us realize. Understanding its dynamics can not only shield you from its impact but also make you more self-aware, so you don't unwittingly project onto others.
Interested in deepening your understanding? We have resources on healing your inner child, emotional recovery, and shadow work available inside the Hall of Records, take a look around.
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